how to deal with one of your absolute best friends moving away to a different country? :(
First off, I feel so bad for you! I thought moving an hour and a half away from my best friend for college was bad!
And as far as my advice goes, talk to her, facetime her, skype her as much as possible. You guys are going to be going through very different things. The distance will be hard but if the friendship really matters, nothing can ruin it! I honestly wouldn’t know how to deal with this (and I’m sorry) but just keep communicating regularly. Also, keep the communication fun, don’t just text or skype; become pen pals and include actual photos.
Hope this helps! xx
P.s. Always remember to support each other in any decisions and hard times despite the distance! :-)
My best friend is starting to not like me... What do I do?
The best advice/suggestion I have is to give her some time and space. I know this is going to be hard but resist the urge to text her when something new/exciting/sad/awful happens. Don’t text her until she texts you and if you do decide to text her first, I would send a funny old picture or a good memory so she remembers the fun you had! But always remember this line from a Richard Bach poem: “If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.”
"What would you feel when your bestfriend left you without a reason, changed alot and whenever you try starts conversation it feels really awkward?"
If a best friend were to leave me without a reason, or if they changed and things became awkward I would accept it. This would be hard and take some time but it would need to be accepted. If they’re not the same person that they were previously or if things are awkward in the relationship, move on. Find other people that you enjoy and spend time with them. Put energy in to a new hobby or enjoyed activity. A friend I had a few years ago and I changed from best friends to just friends when I moved a good distance away. She and I kept in touch and saw each other frequently. She’s burned me in the past so a few months ago at a sleepover, I thought she was the same person. The sleepover was awful and she was a completely different person that the last time we had spent time together. At first, it hurt. But after a few days I realized that she and I weren’t meant to be friends forever and I became closer with the person that is now my best friend. Things happen, people change and the only thing that you can do is stay true to yourself and be happy.
"What will you do when your bestfriend suddenly changed?"
This is a question that I connected with immediately. In the last year, I’ve had three best friends. Now, this may seem absurd but it was just the natural course of life and friendship. The first best friend was so different than I; she was loud, outgoing and didn’t give a shit what anyone thought. She and I were best friends all through the summer and it was a summer I’ll never, ever forget. Our friendship ended and I took it terribly. I sat on the couch and ate ice cream and yes, I did cry. Not much, but the way it ended hurt. When school began, I found a new friend to rely on constantly. Switching best friends is difficult because you have to re-learn a person. Finding out who they are, what they’re like and what things they like takes time. When my second friend and I became closer, it happened fast. Too fast. We went from nothing to being with each other constantly. This is why, I feel, we stopped being friends so quickly. The next change of best friend was hard because of how hard it went from spending all my time with the previous friend to feeling lonely. However, like the last time it happened fast. I find replacements easily, apparently. The change is hard, it takes time to recover but you honestly have to do whats best for your person. I read a quote once that, I find, is fitting with this question: “People come in to your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime” Remember this when you change a best friend. The last one had a purpose and taught you a wonderful lesson.